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Photo: Istock Relationships are full of highs, lows , and subtle shifts. Sometimes, the changes are so quiet you don’t notice until it’s too late. Recognizing the early warning signs of a partner losing interest can save emotional energy and maybe even the relationship itself. 1. Less Communication, Even About Small Things In the early stages, couples often talk constantly texts, calls, or casual check-ins. When interest fades, these little conversations become fewer or more superficial. If they stop asking about your day or sharing theirs, it’s not always laziness it can be a sign of emotional withdrawal. Photo: Shutterstock  2. Avoiding Time Together A partner who once prioritized spending time with you may start making excuses, cancelling plans, or showing less enthusiasm for shared activities. This isn’t about being busy; it’s about where their priorities lie. 3. Reduced Physical Affection Love languages matter, but sudden changes in touch, hugs, or int...

Photo: Istock  Several years ago, during my undergraduate days, I had a friend whose boyfriend was always all over her. He wanted to know where she was and what she was doing at all times when they were apart. At first, it felt romantic to her having someone constantly checking on her wellbeing and whereabouts, as she described it. But like most things, when it becomes excessive, it turns into a problem. His behavior slowly made her lose friends. She became isolated because he didn’t just ask questions he had people watching her. This affected her deeply. She grew extremely conscious and fearful of those around her. Photo: Getty Images  It got so bad that she failed both the first and second semesters of her second year. Luckily, the boyfriend, who was two years ahead, graduated and left. Even after that, she still felt watched, though not as intensely. The experience had already affected her mental health and academic performance. Of course, this may n...

Photo: Shutterstock  Jealousy. The green-eyed feeling everyone secretly battles. But is it a relationship killer, or can it actually strengthen love? The answer depends on how you handle it. When Jealousy Hurts Jealousy becomes destructive when it turns into control, constant suspicion, or emotional manipulation. Checking your partner’s phone, obsessing over who they text, or turning innocent situations into arguments isn’t romantic it’s toxic. Over time, this kills trust, brings resentment, and creates emotional distance. Photo: Shutterstock  When Jealousy Shows You Care Not all jealousy is bad. A small pang when your partner flirts or spends time with someone else can show you care and it can remind both partners of the value of the relationship. Healthy jealousy is brief, self-aware, and doesn’t lead to controlling behavior. It can prompt important conversations about boundaries, needs, and reassurance. How to Handle Jealousy Like a Pro Check Yours...

Photo: Adobe stock   Grand gestures are lovely. Surprise trips, expensive gifts, dramatic declarations. But long-term love is rarely built on spectacle. It survives on the small, almost forgettable habits couples practice every day. It’s saying “text me when you get home” and actually meaning it. It’s sharing the last slice without keeping score. It’s remembering how they take their coffee and getting it right without asking. Photo: Istock Healthy relationships are sustained by consistency, not intensity. A quick check-in during a busy day. A hand squeeze in a crowded room. Sitting through their favorite show even when it’s not your genre. These moments signal attention. Attention builds connection. Then there’s the quiet respect during disagreements. Not rolling your eyes. Not weaponizing past mistakes. Arguing about the issue instead of attacking the person. Couples who last understand that being right is less important than being kind. Laughter also carri...

Photo: Dreamtime  Open relationships where partners agree to see other people romantically or sexually have become more visible in modern dating. But are they truly sustainable, or are they a temporary experiment for some couples? The Benefits of Open Relationships When managed carefully, open relationships can foster honesty, personal growth, and sexual freedom. Partners often report a deeper understanding of their needs and desires, and some find that navigating multiple connections strengthens communication skills and emotional intelligence. The Challenges of Longevity Long-term sustainability is not guaranteed. Jealousy, insecurity, and mismatched expectations can strain even the most committed partnerships. Without clear boundaries and frequent check-ins, misunderstandings may escalate, and emotional intimacy with a primary partner can suffer. Communication and Boundaries Are Key Research and anecdotal evidence show that successful open relationships re...

Photo: Shutterstock   We’ve all seen the pairing. The quiet, calculating introvert with the social extrovert. The careful planner tangled up with the spontaneous risk-taker. The corporate strategist dating the artist. On paper, it seems appealing. In real life? It depends. The idea that opposites attract has been romanticized for decades in movies, books in the kind of love stories that thrive on tension. Think of the friction-filled chemistry between Noah and Allie in The Notebook, or the famously mismatched dynamic of Carrie and Mr. Big in Sex and the City. Conflict makes for great storytelling.  Photo: Istock  Research suggests that similarity especially in core values, long-term goals, and emotional temperament predicts relationship satisfaction more reliably than dramatic personality differences. Shared beliefs about money, family, faith, ambition, and lifestyle tend to hold couples together when the butterflies settle. That said, contrast ca...