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Saturdays are meant for rest, but for must of us its a day to play dress up. With a list of parties, weddings, birthdays, house warmings, concert e.t.c. For the guys picking an outfit for this can be a litttle bit of work not to worry these outfits I have picked for you guys are absolutely wonderful, and they are classy and you'll be sure to find something you love .

 She met him him during her final year at the University, he was about thirty five and rather a good looking man he was over six foot tall, of athlete build- he looked as if he might be a sportsman with the most welcoming smile. She had a weakness for big men, and it was love at first sight like her whole body directed her to him. Time literally slowed down luckily a friend of hers introduced them, and they talked about everything she found out that not only did they share so many interest, but birthday. They became inseparable, and as weeks turned into months and years their bond grew stronger. He treated her with respect, they went on vacations several times to different parts of the world, never raised his voice at her, and was there for her at all time, she found herself  falling deeper in love with him. Although they lived in different cities he made it a routine to visit her every month. When he was  too busy to visit he made travelling arrangements for her to visit h

Brothers only!!!..In this world we live with the whole drama around it's actually difficult in today's society to tell when a girl is into you when she actually thinks of you as just a ''friend'' or a ''cool'' guy. There have been many post from people who do not really understand the woman's mind on ''how to tell if she's really into you'' i read somewhere that it's been scientifically proven that when a guy likes a girl he'll look into her eyes, but when a girl likes a guy she'll look away i don't think this theory is totally true remember there are shy girls who find it awkward looking into people's eyes you might end up getting a wrong impression i'm just saying. So are you hoping a special girl likes you, but don't know how to tell if she's really into you?  Are you looking for give away signs to tell if she thinks about you? What does it mean when she laughs at your dumb jokes..t

For most people every working day especially monday comes with its fear, doubt; from what to wear to work, going back to unfinished work at the office, and it's typical for most women to wake up every working morning staring at piles of clothes, and saying the same thing ''I have nothing to wear'' well, not to worry i have pieced together some outfits that will help you refresh your work look, simple and classy work outfits perfect for all jobs. If you like this post on ""chic work outfits for women" drop a comment or subscribe to my post.

Experience has taught me that honesty is the most important aspect of a relationship, there is that confidence that comes from within when you know you can trust your partner it makes you feel good about yourself and life in general. Many people feel that keeping secrets or lies from their past may spare their partners some pain, but in most cases this is wrong; no matter how terrible your past was talk to your partner about it, trying to protect them can create a bigger damage. It's surprising when asked about qualities you want in a relationship and honesty comes first when most people are not close to that with their partners. If you intend to keep covering one secret to make things look better it could actually bring your relationship to a catastrophic end; It is better you tell your partner everything and anything than keeping it away from them. The most hurtful thing is for your partner to get to hear of your secrets and lies from someone else this has led to the de

Deciding on what to wear for dates can be pretty tough sure, we go through several wardrobe changes before making a final decision on what outfit to wear. It is important to be strategic in your choices since what you wear matters a lot more than you are aware of. Dressing is like self branding it tells people who you really are before you even get a chance to speak most times people use a cloth to determine if you are likeable or not so be wise. You have to dress to match the occasion more formal to match evening date and if it's day time keep it casual though it is always good to go with your gut don't over do it most importantly when in doubt wear your favourite things. For this I have picked out different pieces and paired them into two categories formal and casual. The Formal Date This could be in the evening it might be a dinner, or a movie and requires you to dress in nicer, fancier clothes. For this purpose a dress is a perfect choice because it does n

I made an audio on ''domestic violence'' a while ago and shared amongst my contacts as anticipated because of the delicate nature of the topic I got a lot of comments, but a particular comment blew my wheels which is actually the reason for this post here is a verbatim of his message  ''most of these women deserve what they get, they are stubborn when you ask them to do something they end up doing the opposite, they give unsolicited advice and these can be aggravating so hitting them becomes an option" (Yes, I had that exact look on your face too) For the benefit of doubt I asked what he would do if his sister's husband beats her up, and his response was;  ''nothing, she probably deserved it" at this point I almost fell off my chair. I tried giving him some lectures on how a woman is supposed to be treated with respect, I tried telling him how wrong he was to think of his partner in such demeaning way, I even tried explaining t

I saw a post that said ''90% of women have nothing to offer if you remove sex from relationship, and 90% of women have nothing to offer if you remove money from relationship''. In my opinion I'd say that is the most demeaning, offensive, biased post of all times. The funny thing about this post was that brothers liked, commented and shared it even when a good number of them have been blessed with supportive partners. For the fact that a small percentage of the women you've come across exhibit a particular trait does not give you room to generalize. There are women who contribute immensely to the growth of relationships, 90% of the moral, spiritual, emotional contributions come from women. My point is just because you had bad experiences does not give you the room to use such a huge percentage in expressing your bitterness. There are  independent strong, upright sisters in relationships not for these two things mentioned above. There are women who tak

Don't forget you've got the brain to pick the lock on the door they slammed in your face. You've got enough guts to achieve whatever you set your mind on.

Control is what separates the higher orders from the lower, always remember that. In all you do make control your watchword.

The exciting thing about cloth is that you can change who you are,and become whatever you want with the right outfit...(reminds you of Cinderalla right?)The thing is your appearance plays a significant role in attracting the right people believe it or not.Wardrobe essentials never change while trends come and go-these 5 wardrobe essentials always stay,and have remained consistent year after year.These are items everyone look good in giving you that every day chic look. The white tee I call this the "magic tee" works it magic every time.It is a versatile statement piece that works everytime in the boyfriend jean to trousers,jackets,and skirts for a night out paired with your favourite sneakers or sandals you are set to make a statement. The Blue Jean What is a woman's wardrobe without the blue jean this piece never go out of style.The exciting thing about this piece is that it can be dressed up or down giving you a cool look.It can transform your street look

Do you find yourself in difficult situations where you feel everything is going the wrong direction?Do you feel suffocated with your situation, and feel everything's falling apart? Do you feel like fate disagrees with your hustles, and support those who even try less than you do? You believe you have what it takes to land that job you interviewed for, but did't get called. Are you due for a raise at work, but have been denied? You feel your company has what it takes to win that contract, but your proposal got trashed. You see your business hitting rocks after the sacrifice and hard work put in, but get to see people misuse opportunities you would have used to change the world. You know you have the potential to succeed as others do, you believe your dreams and visions are big enough, but every time you try it seems fate turns its back on you....Hold on be strong don't lose yourself, don't give up on yourself, don't give up your standard. It might take weeks

Being hundreds of miles away from one's partner can be quite frustrating trust me coming from someone who has been in a long distance relationship don't ask (LOL). Most people are scared of long distance relationship especially those with trust issues making their  blood pressures dance just by thinking of what mischief their partners are up to. If you just met someone and have taken a shine to them, but you live in different cities or countries here is the good news your romance can work out just fine trust me just as every rose has its thorn so does every relationship, but if you can adhere to this tips you'll be just fine. Trust  Actually for  any relationship not just a long distance relationship to work out you need trust. Trusting someone means you feel physically and emotionally secured with them, and for your partner to trust you it means they can rely on you at anytime no matter the situation, but it can be quite  difficult with the insecured ones who fo

You know that feeling you get on the first few days of a too tight weave when you can't sleep peacefully, but find yourself restless with every feature of your face hurting, and when you go out people compliment you on how beautiful you look, but deep down you're hurting, and find it difficult going through the process of taking it off. Well most people in relationships\marriages feel that way they are stuck but don't seem to find their way out. Unhappy behind closed doors, but in public, and on social media live the illusion of a perfect marriage and relationship while crying on the inside. Behind the PDAs, pet names, gifts exchange is a horrible story you don't know about. And all you do is sit there trying every possible means to have what this person is portraying on social media, comparing your near perfect relationship to the next person's empty relationship, and putting a great pressure on your partner. The funny thing is most people are so scared of

My loved ones and trusted acquaintances can tell that I'm one of the few persons not interested in blind dates and online dates. But I got set up with a friend of my friend who just got back to the country from Belgium. I thought she was going to talk me to death about how perfect he was for me, how smart, his love for good music, nature and literature. {did i mention she said he was well travelled?} I finally gave in because already I had no serious plan for this friend of hers, and only wanted to drown my loneliness after breaking up with my boyfriend and I was all about making new friends since we share the same circle of friends. And maybe this blind date could result into something huge her excitement showed she already thought of herself as the world's number one match maker. As date night approached she spurred into action from shopping for the perfect dress to taking me to the saloon she was taking the entire planning to another level, and felt I was meeting with

 For decades a woman's success was defined by her marital status and ability to reproduce {especially male children} and for years this was how a woman's achievement was measured, but over the years the female mindset is changing from a simple housewife to that of a career woman. In recent times she beg to differ from the expectations and roles that have been placed on her by the society to be a good woman, tolerate her partner's excesses, to endure marriage rather than enjoy it, produce a male child, be a loyal wife to an unfaithful husband, and be modest not talk back at her husband. The contemporary woman seeks success in every aspect of her life, and refuse to settle for less therefore works hard to redefine herself in the society. When it comes to setting of goals and it's achievement she has no boundaries, and works hard to achieve a perfect balance between family life and career because she wants access to the most priceless things of life. She wants equa

When it comes to the issue of cheating it is no news that both the primitive and high profile men are guilty of waving their clubs around and playing their partners like the violin once in a while. There are various factors that contribute to a man cheating though some leave in denial of these facts, others blame their partners claiming 50% of the reason they stray is caused by their partners, while some are habitual cheats. The reasons below does not mean that all men are cheats, but if you find yourself in a relationship with a cheating partner you might as well check to see where you're getting it wrong. Here are common excuses they give for cheating. Boredom Emotional boredom is one of the paramount reasons why some claim they cheat on their partners meaning that, most women in relationships get so secured that they stop enjoying the things that got them attracted  to their partners in the first place, they stop being adventurous and innovative when it comes to m

 One of my friends went through this particular phase in her life where she was insecured about her butt she felt like she had the flattest butt in history if you ask me I'd say she had a perfect body, in my size 6 days I prayed to God to give me her  kind of  body, and the funny thing was anytime I told her she was my model when it comes to body size she thought I was only making fun of her. She tried every possible thing in order to enhance her butt, and finally went for an enlargement which right now she pretends to like, but I can see she regrets this even if she won't say it. My point is no matter your flaws, whatever makes you feel less beautiful I'm here to tell you that you are beautiful just the way you are you don't need to change a thing about yourself to look like the next person, have you thought of how special you are in that body, that thing you see as a flaw in yourself someone else wish to have it. There is nothing more attractive than a co

The holy book made us understand that a wife is supposed to be her husband's help mate and not 100% dependant  on him for everything...that is to say where he is lacking you're to fill in as a wife. Its shocking to see women of this generation totally dependant on their husband not having any means of additional income, when hubby is broke the entire family is broke which in my opinion is totally wrong. You need to hear married women complain of not having a phone to call or  having airtime to make calls and all...these are little things that you can take care of without  your man's help. A super woman in my opinion has her own thing going on for her, even if the husband provides for the family she helps out by surprising  the husband and children to treats once in a while, and doesn't depend on him for everything.. (down to toiletries and undis). I'm not saying it's wrong for a man to take responsibility of his home, but maybe a little help would be wel

Why do African parents skip the "sex talk" with their teenagers but, are quick to jump on the "when are you getting married" wagon once a person reaches adulthood..

You might have this big dream inside you right now,  but most times when you try sharing it with people you see in their eyes that they have little or no believe in you or your dream don't let that  pull you down you do not need validation from your family, friends, partner and spouse to be that which you are cut out to be. Stop trying to explain yourself don't feel bad and stop dreaming because people you feel should push you or support you think less of you. Keep  dreaming, work hard and at the end you will  have the last laugh. Keep pushing for you and not for anyone you have greatness in you even if every other person is too blind to see, it doesn't mean you give up on yourself, because giving up means giving up on millions of lives you would have changed and touched in the nearest future. Yes they say you complain a lot, yes they say you are difficult to satisfy, well that is because you are different and you know what you want. Trust me there is nothing wrong