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Why do African parents skip the "sex talk" with their teenagers but, are quick to jump on the "when are you getting married" wagon once a person reaches adulthood..

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How To Become A Better Partner in Your Relationship

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          Relationships are not always easy, but it should be a ground to become a better partner.  Life itself is a learning ground and so is relationship, no one is a champion at it, we learn from our past experiences and are still learning from the present. There is always room to learn more, and I hope these six ways of becoming a better partner helps someone learn some more. Self Evaluation Relationship requires work, and if you want to be a better partner, you have to observe and analyze your actions in order to improve where you're lagging. Ask yourself some important questions such as; Are you doing things that are as annoying as your partner? Are you hurting them more than you feel they're hurting you?  By asking these questions, you might realize you're doing the exact things you complain about, the only difference being that your partner is matured enough not to whine about it. Be Mindful of Your Words These days, we are all deal...
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Tips: Effective Ways to Improve Communication in Relationship

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.               Image credit: Shutterstock As humans our need for communication is very high. The level of communication between a man and a woman either make or break the relationship. I realized the reason why communication is still a major problem in relationship is because couples think they hear themselves speak, but actually don’t listen, that is why even with hundreds of thousands books and audios on communication it is still a major problem in relationships. Communication between couples should be easy; it is wrong to get tensed anytime you wish to bring something that bothers you to the notice of your partner. Your conversation should flow natural and be a way you connect with yourselves. But to achieve this you’d need to work on yourself especially if you have a partner who is difficult to communicate with. Tone is Important One key element of communication is tone; it is the foundation where the message is laid on. Your tone conv...
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Sixteen Round

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I read 'Sixteenth Round' by Robin 'Hurricane' Carter (true story) in the book 'hate, injustice caused Mr. Hurricane 20 years of his life (spent behind bars as a prisoner because he was framed up for murders he did not commit) but, he was saved by the friendship of a young boy.  It made me realize that in life there are no coincidence, everything was designed to work according to the laws of nature. Following the story, and how he was mistreated, it would have been expected of him to be bitter, filled with hate and revenge, and looked down on the young boy by underestimating his friendship, (after several appeals to his case was negated) but he didn't  and that friendship bought him his freedom.  My point in the opening story is that whatever situation you are in, whatever you are going through don’t give up, do not underestimate the strength of anyone, do not throw away the little help that could be your key to freedom. Nothing happens by chanc...
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6 Ways to Revive Your Fizzling Relationship

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                                                   As we are aware relationship/marriage is not a bed of roses. Every relationship has its ups and downs and the honeymoon stage of a relationship does not always stay forever. The question is have you over the months/years come to the sudden realization that the sweet touchy romance you once shared at the beginning has fizzled, and this has made you blame your partner/spouse for the distance in the relationship. It’s important to go back to where it all started you will be surprised,  that you might be as guilty as your spouse for the friction. These few ways listed below will serve as a road-map  in reviving your already fizzled or fizzling relationship. Communicate More. I have always stressed communication as a vital key for any relationship. Talk about whatsoever you feel might ...
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6 Signs you're the Selfish Partner

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Relationships should be a 50/50 split where both partners meet in the middle, taking and giving equally. But if you're exclusively concerned about yourself and have zero regards for your partner's needs it becomes negative and psychologically unhealthy. Being the selfish one means you receive without giving in return, and think your partner needs you more than you need them. The purpose of this post is to help you turn the tide around and focus on your partner's emotions and needs if you're the self absorbed one in your 'ship.'  With no delay let's dig into it. Below are six signs you're the selfish partner. You're Unaware of your   Partner's   Needs In order for balance to exist in any relationship, it is important you pay attention to your partner's needs, but in a situation where you consistently put your needs ahead of your partner's and expect them to constantly do things for you, there is bound to be a problem. The po...
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How the Smartphone is Gradually Ruining your Relationship

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One device that is a most have in our time is the mobile phone. Gone are the days when people flaunt the flip phones or phones with analog antennas. In recent times, people’s preferences have shifted to the Samsung and Iphones due to the  class associated with them.   Two of the trendiest of these devices right now is the Galaxy S21Pro and Apple Iphone 12 Pro Max. Both Tech-savvy individuals and those with zero knowledge of how technology works, are drawn to their extraordinary features as well as wowed by their amazing specs such as; the Iphone’s Stainless steel frame, 120H2 pro motion displays and Higher-end photography options and the Samsung’s first internally Snap dragon 888 processor, compass, Dual pixel PDAF. These fearures enable them to keep in touch with friends and followers on social media. But a downside is behind the sophistication of these devices are a gazillion problems it poses unknowingly to relationships. Diminish Physical Interaction Whether in...
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10 Ways to Bring Your Partner Emotionally Close to You (Part1)

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Relationships are not a walk in the park; they require serious commitment from both parties. No relationship is a bed of roses. Forget what is presented on social media, as it often doesn't reflect reality. Most of us make the mistake of comparing our relationships to others, judging ours based on what someone else is showing about their spouse or relationship. What we forget is that every relationship is unique, just like the individuals involved and their needs. This post was inspired by recent complaints from friends and acquaintances: "My partner's so difficult to deal with," "My spouse doesn't talk about anything," My partner's emotionally detached," so many complains. Most times the problem is not with the person you're with but lies in you not understanding their emotional needs. However, there's no need to worry. There are several ways to make your partner feel more emotionally connected to you. That being said, let...
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Tips: Ways to Get Pass Relationship Problems

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       Image credit: www.istockphoto.com Relationships come in different sizes and shapes and all with its peculiar problems. Sometimes it’s easy to forget the good times and be overwhelmed with the problem.  It will be another cliche shot to say some differences between couples cannot be resolved. That almost perfect relationship you desire is attainable, all it takes is if you recognize your problem and find a way pass it. Focus on your partner’s good qualities This can be a difficult task especially if things have been rough in the relationship. An easy way to achieve this is; write down things you like about them.  Keep the list, memorize it or save in your mobile phone and regularly refer to the list as a reminder of why you are with them.  Focusing on the positive qualities of your partner helps you put up with your differences. Spend time together Remember how you both loved to spend time doing things you love together when you start...
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