My Thoughts

If you're not in a relationship or married yet at least you know someone who is. Behind every relationship is a unique sweet story or a unique bitter story. So, I came to the realisation that there are three major types of couples. I know you're wondering what I'm talking about right now but here it is. 1) The   mismatched   couple These couple are the definition of romance and love. They make you want to question why you're with your your partner at first sight. When you're with one half all you get to hear is what the other half said, did and even when they are just a yard away from each other their phones keep buzzing because it's like one half can't survive without the other.  When they finally take a vow before family and friends to stay glued to each other forever..Boom! 1-3 months down the path of marriage things get sour, then comes the bitter discovery that they were not in any way compatible; they begin to see a thousand thing wrong

Today I read a disheartening story of a nine year old girl staying with her aunty, and got raped by their neighbour someone around reported the ordeal to the girl's aunty, first she did the right thing which was confrontation, but the man begged and offered a bribe so that his wife won't hear about it, and the aunty took the money without pressing further charges.  Fortunately enough the same person that reported the ordeal to the girl's aunty made sure the pervert was prosecuted. While reading this the coal of resentment was burning brightly from my ends for this pervert who could not keep his hands in his pocket when it comes to little girls.  The sad thing about this story was the girl's aunty who was supposed to protect her, and stand up for her succumbed to the temptation of 10k at the expense of the little girl's health and safety. The questions that raced through my head while reading the story were; what coud be attractive in a nine year old girl

She recalled the first time he came to her room, her mother had been away for some women conference, and she had gone to bed a bit late because of her home work and was barely asleep when she heard a tap on the door, when she opened it he stepped in, she was surprised, confused and frightened seeing him in her room that late. He immediately pushed her to the bed, and started caressing her with his face in her neck and his other hand between her thighs "don't worry you won't feel any pain"  he said in a hoarse voice. She tried fighting and pushing him away, but his body felt solid against hers, she was tired of struggling and lay rigidly with her eyes squeezed shut, determined not to let them open with the tears flowing steadily as her heart pounded. When he was satisfied he stood up and told her sternly "if you tell anyone about this I'll kill your mother and younger sister".  When she had tried to move her legs It was moist and slippery. She

People have different definition of what should be and what shouldn't depending on their perception about relationship. When it comes to relationship I strongly believe there are lines that shouldn't be crossed. Relationship in general should be about trust, respect, and freedom to be yourself in the relationship. If you're not really sure of what counts as abuse I'd suggest you follow your guts your safety is the number one priority, but if you're still confused here are some few signs to help you. Stalking If your partner stalks you by texting or calling you all the time and expects instant response, and is always checking your social media handle in a way that gives you goosebumps and make you uncomfortable, and requires an explanation for everything. If he keeps track of you even when you haven't made plans to be together this here is a sign. There is a difference between an obsessed person and one who cares. Control If your partner want to

Just as we know the cloth we wear speaks a whole lot about us than we can ever imagine. Your outfit  either make or break you, the fun thing about clothes if you ask me I'd say they change who you are and you can become whatever you wear, its interesting to know that fashion is not just restricted to women today, the men are also becoming fashion concious by the second. Well its another Saturday, and we all know what Saturdays are for-- Weddings!!! That is why you seriously need these hot traditional outfits to make an impression at the wedding today.  

We live in a world where a lot of pressure is placed on a person's achievement and success in the society. A society where "your business becomes everybody's business" with a lot of demand like what they expect you to achieve at a particular stage in your life, and when the achievement of such goal is not possible or delayed you're seen as a failure. With all this it is important to follow your path in life without regrets. Here are some few practical tips I'd like to share. Do things to improve yourself image   It is important you motivate yourself, appreciate yourself for who you are, and what you have been through. Start your day by reading an inspirational message, avoid listening to inner critics, and focus on what works well for you, don't beat yourself for every mistake, do not compare yourself to others, do things that you enjoy, and don't strive for perfection.  Develop  self   love  Self love goes deeper to a place of sel

Breakup comes in all shapes and sizes, some are mild and painless while some just knock you down like the love you once felt. Sometimes you just need time to heal that wound. Most of us intrinsically understand that not all relationship are meant to last forever, while some of us find ourselves going back and forth with exes that have hurt us and still hurting us. If its been months and you're feeling like you want to call your ex or checkout his Facebook account to see how fast he has gotten over you and moved on, my advice don't do it, not to worry here are some tips that will certainly help heal that wound called a heart. Let   go   of the f antasy   If you really desire to totally move on you have to let go of the fantasy that your partner might come running back to you it might have worked for someone else when they broke up, came back and lived happily ever after. Avoid putting yourself through that misery, because you'll only hurt yourself more. Think of it t

There is nothing unfulfilling like doing what you don't like. Finding oneself in a place of work where you feel you are intellectually wasting away, a place where there is nothing new to learn, and when you try to give your all its not appreciated most people find themselves caught in this where they wake up each morning look their best to work, but in that work place lie their nightmare, a place that restrict their countless skills and abilities, a place where they can't speak up, where they don't feel confident and comfortable enough to voice their opinions or share their thoughts, they stay in the job not because it makes them a better person or challenge them intellectually, but because they want to take something home at the end of the month. Most people today find themselves doing jobs that make them go on an emotional roller coaster, but on social media feign love for such jobs and use hashtags to describe how much they love this job that is drowning them sl

It's another Saturday, another day of the week to play dress up well, before you go struggling to catch the bouquet with a hundred other single ladies at a wedding reception, and using all the tricks in your little book to get him propose to you before the end of the 2019. Here are some few honest questions you need to ask yourself. Does he accept you for who you are? Do you fight and argue over everything? Can you be yourself without being criticised around him? Because there are a lot of people that have become a shadow of themselves after jumping on the wagon without thinking. Does he accept your opinions? Is he judgemental about the way you look? Does he share the same interest with you? The thing here is you might love good music, movies, books and might be an adventurous  person who loves to see the world, use the little you have to feed the less privileged, but he sees all these as a waste of good time and resources. Does he question your beliefs? Does he questio

It takes time to pick oneself up after a bad relationship, and when we do it makes us feel emotionally vulnerable we always feel the past will come back to bite us, we begin to suspect the people we are with and misinterprete everything they do by being anxious and practically making ourselves detective and judge over their actions  even when we know our partners are decent, caring and honest people. This insecurity has led some people to end their relationships before their partner even get a hint of what is happening- with the excuse that it is better to walk away rather than risk the hurt of being abandoned. An insecured person can confuse imagination with reality, just like the artist considers painting as a pathway across dimensions, same can be said of the way an insecured perceive their relationship, such a person will interpret every action of his/her partner in a thousand way. They feel every acquaintance or friend is concealing something about their partner they are

You probably woke up to this bitter realisation that its the 1st day of June already, and you are left with just six months before 2018 take its final bow. You begin to feel there is little or nothing to be achieved before the year wraps up i just want to put this on record; all you have to do is believe in yourself every day when you wake up your only goal should be how to make yourself feel good make a decision to start immediately and don't procrastinate, if you can dream it you can do it. The world's biggest problem is the world's biggest business; some people see this problems and create solutions by making billions of dollars out of it. Set a target the only thing that can stop you is your mindset; you don't believe in yourself enough.  Start now to build your future don't wait for the future. Embrace pain if there is no resistance to you, you're not going where you want. Problems are what makes us who we are. You are created for millions of purpose