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Control is what separates the higher orders from the lower, always remember that. In all you do make control your watchword.

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10 Ways to Bring Your Partner Emotionally Close to You (Part1)

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Relationships are not a walk in the park; they require serious commitment from both parties. No relationship is a bed of roses. Forget what is presented on social media, as it often doesn't reflect reality. Most of us make the mistake of comparing our relationships to others, judging ours based on what someone else is showing about their spouse or relationship. What we forget is that every relationship is unique, just like the individuals involved and their needs. This post was inspired by recent complaints from friends and acquaintances: "My partner's so difficult to deal with," "My spouse doesn't talk about anything," My partner's emotionally detached," so many complains. Most times the problem is not with the person you're with but lies in you not understanding their emotional needs. However, there's no need to worry. There are several ways to make your partner feel more emotionally connected to you. That being said, let...
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6 Signs you're the Selfish Partner

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Relationships should be a 50/50 split where both partners meet in the middle, taking and giving equally. But if you're exclusively concerned about yourself and have zero regards for your partner's needs it becomes negative and psychologically unhealthy. Being the selfish one means you receive without giving in return, and think your partner needs you more than you need them. The purpose of this post is to help you turn the tide around and focus on your partner's emotions and needs if you're the self absorbed one in your 'ship.'  With no delay let's dig into it. Below are six signs you're the selfish partner. You're Unaware of your   Partner's   Needs In order for balance to exist in any relationship, it is important you pay attention to your partner's needs, but in a situation where you consistently put your needs ahead of your partner's and expect them to constantly do things for you, there is bound to be a problem. The po...
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10 Ways to Bring Your Partner Emotionally Close to You (Part 2)

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It takes work, dedication, and vulnerability on both sides to develop an emotional bond with one's partner. Meaningful and long-lasting relationships are built from understanding, patience, empathy, support, forgivness, honesty and trust. Seat back with a hot mug of chocolate tea as I dive into the concluding part of "ten ways to build emotional connection with your partner." Shall we?  Be Understanding and Supportive: Providing understanding and support to others in good times and bad builds emotional closeness. Even without saying it your partner needs your support when they're stressed out or having difficulties. Let them know that you are available to listen  whenever they need to talk about their feelings, ideas, or worries without passing judgment.   Be understanding and kind make them feel comfortable in sharing their vulnerabilities and insecurities this can be done by  actively listening and encouraging them. Another way of being understand...
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Broken

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 She met him him during her final year at the University, he was about thirty five and rather a good looking man he was over six foot tall, of athlete build- he looked as if he might be a sportsman with the most welcoming smile. She had a weakness for big men, and it was love at first sight like her whole body directed her to him. Time literally slowed down luckily a friend of hers introduced them, and they talked about everything she found out that not only did they share so many interest, but birthday. They became inseparable, and as weeks turned into months and years their bond grew stronger. He treated her with respect, they went on vacations several times to different parts of the world, never raised his voice at her, and was there for her at all time, she found herself  falling deeper in love with him. Although they lived in different cities he made it a routine to visit her every month. When he was  too busy to visit he made travelling arrangements for ...
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Tips: Effective Ways to Improve Communication in Relationship

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.               Image credit: Shutterstock As humans our need for communication is very high. The level of communication between a man and a woman either make or break the relationship. I realized the reason why communication is still a major problem in relationship is because couples think they hear themselves speak, but actually don’t listen, that is why even with hundreds of thousands books and audios on communication it is still a major problem in relationships. Communication between couples should be easy; it is wrong to get tensed anytime you wish to bring something that bothers you to the notice of your partner. Your conversation should flow natural and be a way you connect with yourselves. But to achieve this you’d need to work on yourself especially if you have a partner who is difficult to communicate with. Tone is Important One key element of communication is tone; it is the foundation where the message is laid on. Your tone conv...
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Sixteen Round

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I read 'Sixteenth Round' by Robin 'Hurricane' Carter (true story) in the book 'hate, injustice caused Mr. Hurricane 20 years of his life (spent behind bars as a prisoner because he was framed up for murders he did not commit) but, he was saved by the friendship of a young boy.  It made me realize that in life there are no coincidence, everything was designed to work according to the laws of nature. Following the story, and how he was mistreated, it would have been expected of him to be bitter, filled with hate and revenge, and looked down on the young boy by underestimating his friendship, (after several appeals to his case was negated) but he didn't  and that friendship bought him his freedom.  My point in the opening story is that whatever situation you are in, whatever you are going through don’t give up, do not underestimate the strength of anyone, do not throw away the little help that could be your key to freedom. Nothing happens by chanc...
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6 Ways to Get Over Someone You Loved

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     Picture Credit: CanStockPhoto.com I wrote a post some years ago about moving on from a bad breakup, and the response was impressive. Truth is, a lot of us actually find it difficult moving on after years spent with someone.  A lot of people have been messed up in a way that they don't  trust anyone enough to want to start a relationship with. In some people's world relationship is a war, you either shoot or get shot at. I hope this post helps you move and find love. Forgive Forgiveness is a choice, and comes easy for some, but forgetting is the problem. No matter how hurt you feel, the big step to finding love again is forgiving your ex and moving on.  You can’t keep hauling around a baggage that is years-old let it go, open your heart; whoever broke your heart is in the past. Do not take the mistake of one person on an entire gender. Stop putting every other person in the basket with your ex. Know this, no two people are same.  There ...
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5 Ways To Manage your Career and Relationship

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I haven't written for close to two months now. During this period I've received tad above dozen emails asking virtually the same question 'how to manage career and relationship.' Actually, truth be told balancing this can be tough if your career is demanding (especially when building one) and if you're not careful you might lose on both ends. But not to worry I'll do my best to point out how we can go round this in order to become like one of those sucessful professionals we admire. This post is specially for those who emailed me and for anyone who need an extra knowledge. Below are some ways I've explained, I hope it helps. Priotize Sometimes life forces us to focus more on one thing than the other, therefore shifting our priority forgoing one goal in exchange for another and weakening one's hold to fulfill the other. It's not right for you to sacrifice one aspect of your life for another. What to do- Do not let your relationship interfe...
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