Tips: Effective Ways to Improve Communication in Relationship
As humans our need for communication is very high. The level of communication between a man and a woman either make or break the relationship. I realized the reason why communication is still a major problem in relationship is because couples think they hear themselves speak, but actually don’t listen, that is why even with hundreds of thousands books and audios on communication it is still a major problem in relationships.
Communication between couples should be easy; it is wrong to get tensed anytime you wish to bring something that bothers you to the notice of your partner. Your conversation should flow natural and be a way you connect with yourselves. But to achieve this you’d need to work on yourself especially if you have a partner who is difficult to communicate with.
Tone is Important
One key element of communication is tone; it is the foundation where the message is laid on. Your tone conveys meaning more than you can imagine. A simple spoken word can be misinterpreted and taken of context.
Setting the right tone when thrashing out an issue with your partner is dependent upon your tone or ability to understand what gets to your partner. What you don’t understand is tone affects your spoken communication, if you don’t strike the right tone, your message gets lost.
Timing
Timing is just as important as tone; it determines how your partner reacts to you. As humans we are overwhelmed by pressures from every aspects of life, and timing is one determinant factor if your partner will pay attention or not to the message being passed.
The value of timing in conversation with one’s partner needs to be understood. The truth is, if you catch them at the wrong time after a stressful day at work it will lead to a sullen conversation. Be observant what time works best for them.
Bottling in
Express your emotions when necessary. It is essential you communicate your feelings and not hold back.
A good number of people fear to communicate due to the fear of escalating things between them and their partners, but what they don' t know is this, bottled emotions can only result in more harm than good. Often time, these hoarded emotions come out at the wrong time, thereby making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Be a Listener
Listening tends to be more tasking than talking; it requires a patient person with a handful of interest. Communication itself is not all about talking, but has listening as a big part of it. Learn to listen without interrupting, most importantly have an open mind and not a judgemental one .
Be observant
Communication is a delicate process and if not careful your message could be taken out of context. When communicating, it is important to have the habit of observation ingrained in you and during such moment take every detail shared as surely as a snapshot.
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