My Thoughts

It is no news that a good number of us have suffered heart break at one point of our lives while it takes some a minute to move on like nothing ever happened, for some the healing process takes a longer route making them check out of life completely. The question is have you been out of the "ship" for long and you find it difficult in getting into another not to worry I have you covered with this few ways on how to find that kind of love you've always wanted. Let go of past emotions Before you you can adhere to the five other ways listed below you have to forgive your ex and let go of all emotions bottled in don't let the fear of what happened in the past keep you from being with the person you want and living the life you want Look good You have to represent your person it is said that if you want to make a good impression on someone before words are even exchanged it is important to look good, and this is how comfortable you are in your skin remember

Alot of people today are scared of living life on their own terms they live each passing day walking on eggshells by letting their family, friends and society define their goals, passion, relationship and who they are, I hate to burst your bubbles, but you're going to end up not satisfied or fulfilled if you keep trying to live your life on other people's terms. It's time to live that life you've always wanted.  Make the most out of your potential invest in your passion and make a living out of it (if that is what you want) learn that skill to help you, own your happiness without the fear of being questioned or criticized. Let go of negative people who will rather see you below than above them. Welcome things or people who believe in the beautiful potential of life itself, people who believe in your drive/purpose, people who contribute to your mental, physical and spiritual growth. The truth is no matter how cautious or reckless you live your life you will get

People often set timers for the different stages of their lives (that is a long to do list they hope to achieve before a particular age) I'm not implying it's wrong to set goals and have your life planned out but, it becomes wrong when you get stressed out, beaten and totally give up on yourself because whatever you have mapped out at a particular stage doesn't play out, it is wrong to keep comparing yourself to your friends that started at the same time with you but are way ahead of you. Trust me I know more than anyone else that life is a tiresome time spent in variety of waiting room but, it's not an excuse to force yourself into competing with others even when people around tell you that you're moving backwards. The truth is this unnecessary competition breed jealousy and, instead of being happy for the other person's success and achievements you end up convincing yourself that you deserve to have what others have more than they do. The whole poin

A woman shared the saddest story I have heard in a while about her inability to conceive after four years of being married, in spite of the fact that she had been to different hospitals for various fertility test (seminal analysis, pelvic ultra scan assessment, hormonal assay for both of herself and husband) all test results indicates her man was okay, but she was not, and this was as a result of untreated infection. The major problem was after he discovered he was fine he started acting up, picking up fights with her, embarrassing her before family and friends, stopped going with her for her usual check ups, started receiving/making strange calls at odd hours, and on more than one ocassion had abused her physically these affected her emotionally, psychologically, socially and mentally. I asked if she was gainfully employed and if she could take care of herself her answer was 'yes' but she was scared of what people might say, she added that she was aware he was no longer

We judge people we feel threatened by especially those who we perceive extremely better, we judge others by using big generalisation to put them down so we can feel better, but our judgement mostly have to do with us not the people we judge and same is true when others judge us. Most often we judge people before we even get to introduce ourselves, which is absolutely wrong you'd agree with me that most people we judge turn out to be the opposite of what we think of them to be when we really get to know them. We frequently make grave mistake of seeing people through other's eyes, if our friends have a negative thing to say about someone we stick to it without giving them a chance to prove what we've been told about them. The truth is your perception of others is a reflection of you. The bottom line is get to know someone before judging them.

As much as we think we know our friends, most times we miss the glaring telltale signs that our "dear friends" want more than being "just friends" with us we keep going round in circles searching for the perfect person for us while the right person has been standing by, always there to hold our hands through the horrible breakups we've been through, while others around us see the signs that our "good friend" has fallen deep for us we tend to be  blind, and consider them the last persons we wish to end up with, well here are some few signs to help you out. 1.   Listens to you As humans one of the things we desire when it comes to our association with others is someone who listens to what we have to say and take us serious. If your friend pays close attention every time to whatever you have to say without judging you for your actions, and sits through every boring story you share, and doesn't mind how many times you have told a story, r

 I was out with some friends two days before January 2018, and we were all having a good time discussing our pains and gains for the year 2017 over a good meal, music, and the most lovely view, and over the course of the evening someone steered the conversation to one of my best friends Mr A and asked after his girlfriend, and why she was absent, because normally anytime we got together she would tag along, my friend started stuttering with pain in his eyes which was so unlike him with all blood drained from his face  he simply replied 'We're no longer together' There was an uncomfortable silence for about forty five seconds (like everyone of us was trying to make meaning of what he said in his or her way) which was immediately followed by a thousand and one question from the five other persons on the table I wanted asking what happened, but the look on his face made me realize he was not ready to talk about it. Unfortunately our other friends didn't understand