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Image from pixabay.com Domestic violence is a serious problem across the world. It occurs in various cultures and affects people across society, at all levels of economic status. It does not discriminate – domestic violence can happen to anyone. Any attempt by one party to dominate and control the other in an intimidate relationship or marriage is domestic violence. At its core, domestic violence is all about gaining and maintaining control over the other person. The Power of Technology Technology can be a powerful tool when it comes to exerting tyrannical control over others. Today’s technology makes it easier for abusive partners to harass and intimidate their victims, online and offline. A new form of domestic abuse that sees perpetrators use internet-connected devices to hurt and harass their spouses or partners inside their homes is emerging. This disturbing trend lets abusive partners continue the emotional and psychological abuse even after the victim h

She woke up with sweat pouring from her face in rivers, she could still see his face, his breath and the unpleasant smell it brought back all the memories in detail. She was an undergraduate in one of the Insurgency marred States in the country when it happened she had gone to make a transaction at the bank when she met him he had assisted since he worked there. He was gregarious and they soon became as thick as thieves he was overly protective of her amongst friends which made her looked up to him like an older brother She remembered the call she had received from him telling her he had been unable to go to work because he was sick, she decided to go visit him on her arrival she realized he had exaggerated things, but didn't go extremes because his friends were around he apologized his reason being that his previous invitations was turned down he excused himself to take the last of his friends home and got back some minutes to curfew  like a penitent child and promised tak

Marriage as we know is not a minute commitment, but a long time you will have to spend with someone it's  about opening up yourself in entirety to your spouse most people are scared of the aftermath of such openness, therefore giving way to secrets, lies, and betrayal, but when you marry your friend there will be no such fear because your friend already knows you. These few reasons will help you understand why it's important for your radar to look closer than straying. It is important when making up your mind on who's to cruise on that 'forever ship' with you to be certain that  someone is your friend this is because your friend already knows you, and the most amazing thing is they respect you just the way you are. You are allowed to be yourself around them. In as much as getting married to a passionate person might be tempting and not bad, but getting married to your friend has it's peek and they know exactly what to do when you are in dire need of a fri

It is no news that a good number of us have suffered heart break at one point of our lives while it takes some a minute to move on like nothing ever happened, for some the healing process takes a longer route making them check out of life completely. The question is have you been out of the "ship" for long and you find it difficult in getting into another not to worry I have you covered with this few ways on how to find that kind of love you've always wanted. Let go of past emotions Before you you can adhere to the five other ways listed below you have to forgive your ex and let go of all emotions bottled in don't let the fear of what happened in the past keep you from being with the person you want and living the life you want Look good You have to represent your person it is said that if you want to make a good impression on someone before words are even exchanged it is important to look good, and this is how comfortable you are in your skin remember

Alot of people today are scared of living life on their own terms they live each passing day walking on eggshells by letting their family, friends and society define their goals, passion, relationship and who they are, I hate to burst your bubbles, but you're going to end up not satisfied or fulfilled if you keep trying to live your life on other people's terms. It's time to live that life you've always wanted.  Make the most out of your potential invest in your passion and make a living out of it (if that is what you want) learn that skill to help you, own your happiness without the fear of being questioned or criticized. Let go of negative people who will rather see you below than above them. Welcome things or people who believe in the beautiful potential of life itself, people who believe in your drive/purpose, people who contribute to your mental, physical and spiritual growth. The truth is no matter how cautious or reckless you live your life you will get

People often set timers for the different stages of their lives (that is a long to do list they hope to achieve before a particular age) I'm not implying it's wrong to set goals and have your life planned out but, it becomes wrong when you get stressed out, beaten and totally give up on yourself because whatever you have mapped out at a particular stage doesn't play out, it is wrong to keep comparing yourself to your friends that started at the same time with you but are way ahead of you. Trust me I know more than anyone else that life is a tiresome time spent in variety of waiting room but, it's not an excuse to force yourself into competing with others even when people around tell you that you're moving backwards. The truth is this unnecessary competition breed jealousy and, instead of being happy for the other person's success and achievements you end up convincing yourself that you deserve to have what others have more than they do. The whole poin

A woman shared the saddest story I have heard in a while about her inability to conceive after four years of being married, in spite of the fact that she had been to different hospitals for various fertility test (seminal analysis, pelvic ultra scan assessment, hormonal assay for both of herself and husband) all test results indicates her man was okay, but she was not, and this was as a result of untreated infection. The major problem was after he discovered he was fine he started acting up, picking up fights with her, embarrassing her before family and friends, stopped going with her for her usual check ups, started receiving/making strange calls at odd hours, and on more than one ocassion had abused her physically these affected her emotionally, psychologically, socially and mentally. I asked if she was gainfully employed and if she could take care of herself her answer was 'yes' but she was scared of what people might say, she added that she was aware he was no longer