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We want the best in everything we are involved in, it’s in our nature as humans, but life as we know is not a pedestal of perfection and so is relationship. If you have a good relationship and want to make things better this post is for you or if you are trying to save your 'ship' from sinking this post for you. Appreciate. The major problem with most relationship is the entitlement mentality of some people. Gifts, surprises, and care should not be one sided, no matter how little a gift or act of kindness you get act/ look pleased, and if what you recieved is below your expectations do not talk about it in the moment.   Tone Matters. The truth is you can be right, but wrong at the top of your voice do not be insensitive when making your point known. Generally, because of things left unsaid, one’s reaction to the most trivial thing could be extra. Forgive. Forgetfulness is common and no one is above it probably because we all have things we are deal...

It’s undeniable that a good percentage of us in relationships are or have been depressed at one point in time. This could be as a result of various reasons. Sometimes, we hold our partners accountable and by so doing transfer aggressions on them using words and actions forgetting that our partners are humans and have blood flowing through their veins, that is to say your partner could be crushed by your words and actions. If you feel things have derailed a bit in your relationship, and its making you feel depressed these ways listed below will help you go around it. 1. Get busy; get yourself to do something, get busy with work or make your passion come alive an idle mind is a space for assumptions and depression, too. 2.   Make new friends, the reason for your depression could be as a result of your closed circle that is letting your friends go because you are hooked up.     3 .    Communication is a key ingredient, talk about whatever it ...

                                                   As we are aware relationship/marriage is not a bed of roses. Every relationship has its ups and downs and the honeymoon stage of a relationship does not always stay forever. The question is have you over the months/years come to the sudden realization that the sweet touchy romance you once shared at the beginning has fizzled, and this has made you blame your partner/spouse for the distance in the relationship. It’s important to go back to where it all started you will be surprised,  that you might be as guilty as your spouse for the friction. These few ways listed below will serve as a road-map  in reviving your already fizzled or fizzling relationship. Communicate More. I have always stressed communication as a vital key for any relationship. Talk about whatsoever you feel might ...

A 33  year  old man from Portugal reached out to me via email some days ago because he felt from my previous post I expressed  all the complex things he had felt in just a handful of sentences. This man was abused from childhood to teenage  several times by his elder sister’s friend and this has demoralized him as an adult he tried speaking up about it some years ago to some friends and family no one believed him, he was told straight without a smidgen of sympathy that it would have been easier believed if it were one of his sisters who shared such experience, well like thousands of men out there with same experience that was the time he figured out some gender complex matter Statistic has shown that 3 out of every 5 man have been sexually abused by an adult while growing up. Men go through this abuse as much as women, but, there is no law in place to protect or encourage them to speak up, and for the few who tried speaking up they are not believe...

Rape is one of the most serious forms of sexual offences perhaps only less serious than murder under the criminal law in most country’s Common Law. It is seen as an aggravated or heinous crime by one person against another today the cardinal aim of the law of rape is to protect a woman or girl from sexual assault or sexual harassment with none of such law in place for a man or boy. It’s saddening to note that right from ancient time laws have been in place protecting women from rape therefore making it a man’s fault whenever rape is reported. There was a time ancient laws were said to be explicitly designed to protect men from false accusation of rape, which was was fair for a while, but criticism on the law by society that it placed more value on preventing false accusation than protecting women from actual rape complicated things afterwards The weight of punishment attached to rape may stem from the fact that it is widely committed against those who the society cons...

                          photo credit :   shutterspot . com I had a discussion with a friend who has been single for 2 years  going on three I asked him what he missed most in a relationship he said ‘the connection and bond’ but in a funny way he has grown very comfortable with his present status, and that his past experience has made him skeptical of having the fairy tale  kind of love he had envisioned as a child. Being myself I made him understand that just like life when it comes to relationship no two tales end the same, and there is a possibility of finding love again. Now the question is are you like my friend  and  have been out of the ‘ship’ for long? are you trying to make one work at the moment, but not sure how to go about it not to worry these few dos and don’ts will help set you on the right track. Do make honesty the bedrock of your new relationship there should be no ...

When we talk about relationships, we tend to focus on only the good and great side of things. The roses, the honeymoon and all the mushy stuff that makes followers on social media swoon. However, if we don’t address the bad and ugly side of things, there will not be the right balance of great relationships, in every sense of it, in the world. To that effect, we discussed the occurrence of domestic violence by the use of tech not quite long ago. Today, we have more reason to expand on that. Who is this post for? This piece is for everyone. At least, anyone who cares about their security and privacy at all. When we discussed the former topic mentioned above, one of the things that I made clear was that your devices could be hacked and used against you. That makes it very important to trust your units so that you don’t fall prey to targeted technology attacks of any kind. Combing through the news feeds just a couple of weeks ago, I stumbled upon a piece of tech – HP S...