The Dos And Dont's of A New Flame


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I had a discussion with a friend who has been single for 2 years going on three I asked him what he missed most in a relationship he said ‘the connection and bond’ but in a funny way he has grown very comfortable with his present status, and that his past experience has made him skeptical of having the fairy tale kind of love he had envisioned as a child. Being myself I made him understand that just like life when it comes to relationship no two tales end the same, and there is a possibility of finding love again. Now the question is are you like my friend and have been out of the ‘ship’ for long? are you trying to make one work at the moment, but not sure how to go about it not to worry these few dos and don’ts will help set you on the right track.


Do make honesty the bedrock of your new relationship there should be no secrete no lies keep in mind that whatever you’re trying to keep from your partner in the bid of protecting them will come back to hurt them at the end.

Don’t compare your new flame to the past in any way no matter how terrible your breakup might have been remember it’s a new start, another chance you’ve been given to rewrite wrong and be a better version of yourself.

Do talk about everything from your interest, values, goals, fears and hobbies when it comes to relationship I have always stressed communication as key

Don’t hold back how you feel about a particular issue or subject when it has to do with your relationship

Do things you both enjoy together you’re supposed to enjoy each other’s company not bore yourselves to death be flexible when it comes to decision that has to do with you or your spouse.

Don’t be too uptight or rigid when it comes to your relationship, every minute you spend together is meant to be enjoyed and not a jail sentence

Do stay true to yourself and your spouse work to improve yourself by becoming a better person for the healthy growth of the relationship

Don’t lose yourself or what you stand for just to please your partner draw the line when it comes to certain things

Do respect each other’s personal space know when your partner is comfortable or uncomfortable with a particular situation.

Don’t abuse your partner either verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or otherwise be sure to know what your partner likes and dislikes




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