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Since the Pandemic everything about our lives have veered off course and we are gradually embracing and adjusting to a whole new lifestyle. Not in our wildest dreams did we fanthom wearing masks, social distancing and carrying santizers in our handbags or pockets would become the new normal. All these happenings have had a good number of us wishing we could time travel back to when fun outdoorsy things were allowed without restrictions. With that said, it is no surprise that the forthcoming Valentine will be a Non Traditional one for many.  If this is something different from your previous ones and you're confused on how to make the most of it, not to worry you can still celebrate the 14th by having the most fabulous day while expressing love and appreciating your partner or yourself.  Before going further, it is important to note that this year's Valentine should not be about the major population's approach, but yours as an individual and your partner's. 

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I have always stated that no relationship is a pedestal of perfection, all have their struggle in all fronts.  The first step to an excellent relationship is discovering your partner's love language. According to Gary Chapman, the author of "The five love languages" he said, "when you reach out to your partner and discover their specific language you help them keep their emotional love tank full and maintain a meaningful connection." Sadly, the best of us are unable to speak our partner's love language even when in a long term relationship. When couples can speak each other’s language,  there will be less tension in the relationship, they will feel loved and appreciated. These three ways will help you discover your partner's love language. Learn to pay attention The first step to discovering your partner’s love language is by learning to pay attention. For example, when you use any of Chapman's love language it is important to pay att

Contrary to popular opinion, a woman's needs are a handful and can be met by her man. Though, these needs take different forms at every stages of her life bringing about misconception of women and their needs. However, if I am allowed to make a conservative estimate I would say these 3 things below are a fundamental at every stage, and most importantly a relationship, so if you want a happy woman and relationship below is your guide. AFFECTION. Every woman needs love. She wants to be loved unconditionally, and reminded about how you feel about her I mean that in every sense of the world. Women are wired to love unconditionally, but the truth is women most times are not sure they are truely loved especially by their partners/spouses. This has nothing to do with being secured with who they are. It is how they are wired. The woman is more apt to show how she feel, and expect the same from her man. The point is show her how you feel with your words and actions. It is impo

Planning a first date can be daring. You want to plan your date to make sure you have a great time. Finally, the day is here and you feel prepared to go win yourself a heart, and keep it. Your expectations are high no doubt. First let's take a minute to look at the dos and don'ts of a first date. 1.  Do look good it is better to be over dressed than look sloppy. Do not forget to smell nice, remember first impression go a long way. 2.  Do stay positive if you enter the date doubting your self worth or feeling defeated those feelings  will carry throughout the night. Do not bring previous dating experience that did not go well, rather focus on what you can learn than dwelling on the negativity. 3.  Do have an engaging conversation, though for some people especially the quiet ones this could be the most daring part of the date. Do not tell your whole story a little mystery is advice here. 4.  Do ask questions if he/she shares something about themselves or ask

We want the best in everything we are involved in, it’s in our nature as humans, but life as we know is not a pedestal of perfection and so is relationship. If you have a good relationship and want to make things better this post is for you or if you are trying to save your 'ship' from sinking this post for you. Appreciate. The major problem with most relationship is the entitlement mentality of some people. Gifts, surprises, and care should not be one sided, no matter how little a gift or act of kindness you get act/ look pleased, and if what you recieved is below your expectations do not talk about it in the moment.   Tone Matters. The truth is you can be right, but wrong at the top of your voice do not be insensitive when making your point known. Generally, because of things left unsaid, one’s reaction to the most trivial thing could be extra. Forgive. Forgetfulness is common and no one is above it probably because we all have things we are deal