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A few weeks ago, a close friend of mine called me.  "E I'd really love to see you," She said and hung up, there was an urgency in her voice that really worried me.  We fixed a lunch date at Fresh Dew (Jabi lake Mall). I felt I was going to need a crystal ball for our conversation because she wasn't a talker and I was more of the listener. Luckily, whatever was bothering her made her loosen up. It was obvious she was struggling to hold back the water wells. "Ade is cheating on me," She blurted out.  I looked on without blinking. To cut the long story short, she had her suspicion about her cheating husband for a while, but didnt let it soak, somehow she found out and he came clean. What hurt most, was the fact that he was cheating on her with his ex. She was devastated and didnt know what to do, but love him regardless. She was ready to cut her losses and leave, but took into consideration my counsel and things are gradually picking up.  I know a l

I read 'Sixteenth Round' by Robin 'Hurricane' Carter (true story) in the book 'hate, injustice caused Mr. Hurricane 20 years of his life (spent behind bars as a prisoner because he was framed up for murders he did not commit) but, he was saved by the friendship of a young boy.  It made me realize that in life there are no coincidence, everything was designed to work according to the laws of nature. Following the story, and how he was mistreated, it would have been expected of him to be bitter, filled with hate and revenge, and looked down on the young boy by underestimating his friendship, (after several appeals to his case was negated) but he didn't  and that friendship bought him his freedom.  My point in the opening story is that whatever situation you are in, whatever you are going through don’t give up, do not underestimate the strength of anyone, do not throw away the little help that could be your key to freedom. Nothing happens by chanc

No one is entirely immune to the legendary cupid's arrow, we've all felt or will feel it at a time. The signs are obvious when you're falling for someone, thinking about them every second, the nervous feeling when around them, the feeling of butterflies in your stomach, the unquenchable desire to hear from them and the need to look spiffy  just to impress them. The truth is, no one can tell when this thing happen, there are no maps of the change falling in love brings and most times it happens when you think you're past that sort of thing or not ready for it. Your Relationship doesn't Feel Forced Being with your partner feels easy, you don't have to work hard to make things take their desired form. To spend time with them becomes what you really want, even a day spent together is not enough. When you argue, it's no longer a battle of superiority like it used to in the past, you're not worried to accept your fault and apologize.  You get

I haven't written for close to two months now. During this period I've received tad above dozen emails asking virtually the same question 'how to manage career and relationship.' Actually, truth be told balancing this can be tough if your career is demanding (especially when building one) and if you're not careful you might lose on both ends. But not to worry I'll do my best to point out how we can go round this in order to become like one of those sucessful professionals we admire. This post is specially for those who emailed me and for anyone who need an extra knowledge. Below are some ways I've explained, I hope it helps. Priotize Sometimes life forces us to focus more on one thing than the other, therefore shifting our priority forgoing one goal in exchange for another and weakening one's hold to fulfill the other. It's not right for you to sacrifice one aspect of your life for another. What to do- Do not let your relationship interfe

Since the Pandemic everything about our lives have veered off course and we are gradually embracing and adjusting to a whole new lifestyle. Not in our wildest dreams did we fanthom wearing masks, social distancing and carrying santizers in our handbags or pockets would become the new normal. All these happenings have had a good number of us wishing we could time travel back to when fun outdoorsy things were allowed without restrictions. With that said, it is no surprise that the forthcoming Valentine will be a Non Traditional one for many.  If this is something different from your previous ones and you're confused on how to make the most of it, not to worry you can still celebrate the 14th by having the most fabulous day while expressing love and appreciating your partner or yourself.  Before going further, it is important to note that this year's Valentine should not be about the major population's approach, but yours as an individual and your partner's. 

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