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A 33  year  old man from Portugal reached out to me via email some days ago because he felt from my previous post I expressed  all the complex things he had felt in just a handful of sentences. This man was abused from childhood to teenage  several times by his elder sister’s friend and this has demoralized him as an adult he tried speaking up about it some years ago to some friends and family no one believed him, he was told straight without a smidgen of sympathy that it would have been easier believed if it were one of his sisters who shared such experience, well like thousands of men out there with same experience that was the time he figured out some gender complex matter Statistic has shown that 3 out of every 5 man have been sexually abused by an adult while growing up. Men go through this abuse as much as women, but, there is no law in place to protect or encourage them to speak up, and for the few who tried speaking up they are not believe...

Rape is one of the most serious forms of sexual offences perhaps only less serious than murder under the criminal law in most country’s Common Law. It is seen as an aggravated or heinous crime by one person against another today the cardinal aim of the law of rape is to protect a woman or girl from sexual assault or sexual harassment with none of such law in place for a man or boy. It’s saddening to note that right from ancient time laws have been in place protecting women from rape therefore making it a man’s fault whenever rape is reported. There was a time ancient laws were said to be explicitly designed to protect men from false accusation of rape, which was was fair for a while, but criticism on the law by society that it placed more value on preventing false accusation than protecting women from actual rape complicated things afterwards The weight of punishment attached to rape may stem from the fact that it is widely committed against those who the society cons...

                          photo credit :   shutterspot . com I had a discussion with a friend who has been single for 2 years  going on three I asked him what he missed most in a relationship he said ‘the connection and bond’ but in a funny way he has grown very comfortable with his present status, and that his past experience has made him skeptical of having the fairy tale  kind of love he had envisioned as a child. Being myself I made him understand that just like life when it comes to relationship no two tales end the same, and there is a possibility of finding love again. Now the question is are you like my friend  and  have been out of the ‘ship’ for long? are you trying to make one work at the moment, but not sure how to go about it not to worry these few dos and don’ts will help set you on the right track. Do make honesty the bedrock of your new relationship there should be no ...

When we talk about relationships, we tend to focus on only the good and great side of things. The roses, the honeymoon and all the mushy stuff that makes followers on social media swoon. However, if we don’t address the bad and ugly side of things, there will not be the right balance of great relationships, in every sense of it, in the world. To that effect, we discussed the occurrence of domestic violence by the use of tech not quite long ago. Today, we have more reason to expand on that. Who is this post for? This piece is for everyone. At least, anyone who cares about their security and privacy at all. When we discussed the former topic mentioned above, one of the things that I made clear was that your devices could be hacked and used against you. That makes it very important to trust your units so that you don’t fall prey to targeted technology attacks of any kind. Combing through the news feeds just a couple of weeks ago, I stumbled upon a piece of tech – HP S...

Image from pixabay.com Domestic violence is a serious problem across the world. It occurs in various cultures and affects people across society, at all levels of economic status. It does not discriminate – domestic violence can happen to anyone. Any attempt by one party to dominate and control the other in an intimidate relationship or marriage is domestic violence. At its core, domestic violence is all about gaining and maintaining control over the other person. The Power of Technology Technology can be a powerful tool when it comes to exerting tyrannical control over others. Today’s technology makes it easier for abusive partners to harass and intimidate their victims, online and offline. A new form of domestic abuse that sees perpetrators use internet-connected devices to hurt and harass their spouses or partners inside their homes is emerging. This disturbing trend lets abusive partners continue the emotional and psychological abuse even after the victim h...

She woke up with sweat pouring from her face in rivers, she could still see his face, his breath and the unpleasant smell it brought back all the memories in detail. She was an undergraduate in one of the Insurgency marred States in the country when it happened she had gone to make a transaction at the bank when she met him he had assisted since he worked there. He was gregarious and they soon became as thick as thieves he was overly protective of her amongst friends which made her looked up to him like an older brother She remembered the call she had received from him telling her he had been unable to go to work because he was sick, she decided to go visit him on her arrival she realized he had exaggerated things, but didn't go extremes because his friends were around he apologized his reason being that his previous invitations was turned down he excused himself to take the last of his friends home and got back some minutes to curfew  like a penitent child and promised tak...

Marriage as we know is not a minute commitment, but a long time you will have to spend with someone it's  about opening up yourself in entirety to your spouse most people are scared of the aftermath of such openness, therefore giving way to secrets, lies, and betrayal, but when you marry your friend there will be no such fear because your friend already knows you. These few reasons will help you understand why it's important for your radar to look closer than straying. It is important when making up your mind on who's to cruise on that 'forever ship' with you to be certain that  someone is your friend this is because your friend already knows you, and the most amazing thing is they respect you just the way you are. You are allowed to be yourself around them. In as much as getting married to a passionate person might be tempting and not bad, but getting married to your friend has it's peek and they know exactly what to do when you are in dire need of a fri...