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          Relationships are not always easy, but it should be a ground to become a better partner.  Life itself is a learning ground and so is relationship, no one is a champion at it, we learn from our past experiences and are still learning from the present. There is always room to learn more, and I hope these six ways of becoming a better partner helps someone learn some more. Self Evaluation Relationship requires work, and if you want to be a better partner, you have to observe and analyze your actions in order to improve where you're lagging. Ask yourself some important questions such as; Are you doing things that are as annoying as your partner? Are you hurting them more than you feel they're hurting you?  By asking these questions, you might realize you're doing the exact things you complain about, the only difference being that your partner is matured enough not to whine about it. Be Mindful of Your Words These days, we are all dealing with endless amoun

A few weeks back, I made a post on the aforementioned topic, and recieved more than a dozen emails and direct messages asking me to "broaden the topic." So, here we are. This is my little effort at making the said topic "broader." I will be direct as usually. ('Cause I can't help myself)  Most times I'd rather leave the topices short and simple so the message I'm trying to convey is not lost. For everyone who asked for more, this is for you.  Fingers crossed every missing tidbit in the last post is found here. You're in Charge of your emotions Truth is, anger can make you say or do things you'd probably regret. Always remember that you're in control when it comes to your emotions and not the other way. If you can remember this forgiveness comes easily. Focus on what you love about your   partner If you're struggling to forgive your partner for something big they did, it might be time to reflect on the things you lov

A few weeks ago, a close friend of mine called me.  "E I'd really love to see you," She said and hung up, there was an urgency in her voice that really worried me.  We fixed a lunch date at Fresh Dew (Jabi lake Mall). I felt I was going to need a crystal ball for our conversation because she wasn't a talker and I was more of the listener. Luckily, whatever was bothering her made her loosen up. It was obvious she was struggling to hold back the water wells. "Ade is cheating on me," She blurted out.  I looked on without blinking. To cut the long story short, she had her suspicion about her cheating husband for a while, but didnt let it soak, somehow she found out and he came clean. What hurt most, was the fact that he was cheating on her with his ex. She was devastated and didnt know what to do, but love him regardless. She was ready to cut her losses and leave, but took into consideration my counsel and things are gradually picking up.  I know a l

I read 'Sixteenth Round' by Robin 'Hurricane' Carter (true story) in the book 'hate, injustice caused Mr. Hurricane 20 years of his life (spent behind bars as a prisoner because he was framed up for murders he did not commit) but, he was saved by the friendship of a young boy.  It made me realize that in life there are no coincidence, everything was designed to work according to the laws of nature. Following the story, and how he was mistreated, it would have been expected of him to be bitter, filled with hate and revenge, and looked down on the young boy by underestimating his friendship, (after several appeals to his case was negated) but he didn't  and that friendship bought him his freedom.  My point in the opening story is that whatever situation you are in, whatever you are going through don’t give up, do not underestimate the strength of anyone, do not throw away the little help that could be your key to freedom. Nothing happens by chanc

No one is entirely immune to the legendary cupid's arrow, we've all felt or will feel it at a time. The signs are obvious when you're falling for someone, thinking about them every second, the nervous feeling when around them, the feeling of butterflies in your stomach, the unquenchable desire to hear from them and the need to look spiffy  just to impress them. The truth is, no one can tell when this thing happen, there are no maps of the change falling in love brings and most times it happens when you think you're past that sort of thing or not ready for it. Your Relationship doesn't Feel Forced Being with your partner feels easy, you don't have to work hard to make things take their desired form. To spend time with them becomes what you really want, even a day spent together is not enough. When you argue, it's no longer a battle of superiority like it used to in the past, you're not worried to accept your fault and apologize.  You get

I haven't written for close to two months now. During this period I've received tad above dozen emails asking virtually the same question 'how to manage career and relationship.' Actually, truth be told balancing this can be tough if your career is demanding (especially when building one) and if you're not careful you might lose on both ends. But not to worry I'll do my best to point out how we can go round this in order to become like one of those sucessful professionals we admire. This post is specially for those who emailed me and for anyone who need an extra knowledge. Below are some ways I've explained, I hope it helps. Priotize Sometimes life forces us to focus more on one thing than the other, therefore shifting our priority forgoing one goal in exchange for another and weakening one's hold to fulfill the other. It's not right for you to sacrifice one aspect of your life for another. What to do- Do not let your relationship interfe