My Thoughts

If you're not in a relationship or married yet at least you know someone who is. Behind every relationship is a unique sweet story or a unique bitter story. So, I came to the realisation that there are three major types of couples. I know you're wondering what I'm talking about right now but here it is. 1) The   mismatched   couple These couple are the definition of romance and love. They make you want to question why you're with your your partner at first sight. When you're with one half all you get to hear is what the other half said, did and even when they are just a yard away from each other their phones keep buzzing because it's like one half can't survive without the other.  When they finally take a vow before family and friends to stay glued to each other forever..Boom! 1-3 months down the path of marriage things get sour, then comes the bitter discovery that they were not in any way compatible; they begin to see a thousand thing wrong ...

Today I read a disheartening story of a nine year old girl staying with her aunty, and got raped by their neighbour someone around reported the ordeal to the girl's aunty, first she did the right thing which was confrontation, but the man begged and offered a bribe so that his wife won't hear about it, and the aunty took the money without pressing further charges.  Fortunately enough the same person that reported the ordeal to the girl's aunty made sure the pervert was prosecuted. While reading this the coal of resentment was burning brightly from my ends for this pervert who could not keep his hands in his pocket when it comes to little girls.  The sad thing about this story was the girl's aunty who was supposed to protect her, and stand up for her succumbed to the temptation of 10k at the expense of the little girl's health and safety. The questions that raced through my head while reading the story were; what coud be attractive in a nine year old girl...

She recalled the first time he came to her room, her mother had been away for some women conference, and she had gone to bed a bit late because of her home work and was barely asleep when she heard a tap on the door, when she opened it he stepped in, she was surprised, confused and frightened seeing him in her room that late. He immediately pushed her to the bed, and started caressing her with his face in her neck and his other hand between her thighs "don't worry you won't feel any pain"  he said in a hoarse voice. She tried fighting and pushing him away, but his body felt solid against hers, she was tired of struggling and lay rigidly with her eyes squeezed shut, determined not to let them open with the tears flowing steadily as her heart pounded. When he was satisfied he stood up and told her sternly "if you tell anyone about this I'll kill your mother and younger sister".  When she had tried to move her legs It was moist and slippery. She ...

People have different definition of what should be and what shouldn't depending on their perception about relationship. When it comes to relationship I strongly believe there are lines that shouldn't be crossed. Relationship in general should be about trust, respect, and freedom to be yourself in the relationship. If you're not really sure of what counts as abuse I'd suggest you follow your guts your safety is the number one priority, but if you're still confused here are some few signs to help you. Stalking If your partner stalks you by texting or calling you all the time and expects instant response, and is always checking your social media handle in a way that gives you goosebumps and make you uncomfortable, and requires an explanation for everything. If he keeps track of you even when you haven't made plans to be together this here is a sign. There is a difference between an obsessed person and one who cares. Control If your partner want to ...

Just as we know the cloth we wear speaks a whole lot about us than we can ever imagine. Your outfit  either make or break you, the fun thing about clothes if you ask me I'd say they change who you are and you can become whatever you wear, its interesting to know that fashion is not just restricted to women today, the men are also becoming fashion concious by the second. Well its another Saturday, and we all know what Saturdays are for-- Weddings!!! That is why you seriously need these hot traditional outfits to make an impression at the wedding today.  

We live in a world where a lot of pressure is placed on a person's achievement and success in the society. A society where "your business becomes everybody's business" with a lot of demand like what they expect you to achieve at a particular stage in your life, and when the achievement of such goal is not possible or delayed you're seen as a failure. With all this it is important to follow your path in life without regrets. Here are some few practical tips I'd like to share. Do things to improve yourself image   It is important you motivate yourself, appreciate yourself for who you are, and what you have been through. Start your day by reading an inspirational message, avoid listening to inner critics, and focus on what works well for you, don't beat yourself for every mistake, do not compare yourself to others, do things that you enjoy, and don't strive for perfection.  Develop  self   love  Self love goes deeper to a place of sel...

Breakup comes in all shapes and sizes, some are mild and painless while some just knock you down like the love you once felt. Sometimes you just need time to heal that wound. Most of us intrinsically understand that not all relationship are meant to last forever, while some of us find ourselves going back and forth with exes that have hurt us and still hurting us. If its been months and you're feeling like you want to call your ex or checkout his Facebook account to see how fast he has gotten over you and moved on, my advice don't do it, not to worry here are some tips that will certainly help heal that wound called a heart. Let   go   of the f antasy   If you really desire to totally move on you have to let go of the fantasy that your partner might come running back to you it might have worked for someone else when they broke up, came back and lived happily ever after. Avoid putting yourself through that misery, because you'll only hurt yourself more. Think of it...