My Thoughts

As much as we think we know our friends, most times we miss the glaring telltale signs that our "dear friends" want more than being "just friends" with us we keep going round in circles searching for the perfect person for us while the right person has been standing by, always there to hold our hands through the horrible breakups we've been through, while others around us see the signs that our "good friend" has fallen deep for us we tend to be  blind, and consider them the last persons we wish to end up with, well here are some few signs to help you out. 1.   Listens to you As humans one of the things we desire when it comes to our association with others is someone who listens to what we have to say and take us serious. If your friend pays close attention every time to whatever you have to say without judging you for your actions, and sits through every boring story you share, and doesn't mind how many times you have told a story, r...

 I was out with some friends two days before January 2018, and we were all having a good time discussing our pains and gains for the year 2017 over a good meal, music, and the most lovely view, and over the course of the evening someone steered the conversation to one of my best friends Mr A and asked after his girlfriend, and why she was absent, because normally anytime we got together she would tag along, my friend started stuttering with pain in his eyes which was so unlike him with all blood drained from his face  he simply replied 'We're no longer together' There was an uncomfortable silence for about forty five seconds (like everyone of us was trying to make meaning of what he said in his or her way) which was immediately followed by a thousand and one question from the five other persons on the table I wanted asking what happened, but the look on his face made me realize he was not ready to talk about it. Unfortunately our other friends didn't understand ...

A friend who recently went through a bad breakup after being in a relationship for five years  said she realized the nights she spent awake crying over her man was more than the fun, happy time they had together, though she noticed they were not quite compatible along the line, but  thought she could fix things, make them better. She told me something that stuck, that if she had been able to tell herself the truth at the beginning she wouldn't have gone through the pain of a bad breakeup. My point is most times the signs that we are not compatible with our partners are there glaring at us, but we choose to ignore them telling ourselves that if we can put in extra work things will be just fine. These seven signs will help you find your way. 1) You can't be yourself The biggest mistake most people make in relationships is becoming someone else just to make the relationship work. If you're with someone who frequently criticise you for being you, criticise you for wh...

Emem stepped into the deserted street at about 10:45pm, and regretted staying that late at the fashion house, at about that second her phone began to ring uncontrollably, who could be calling at this odd hour when she was trying to get herself home unharmed she thought, she was too scared to pick the call paradventure someone crawls from behind, as she skilfully opened her handbag and peeped to see who the caller was, fortunately enough just the right person to bail her out, as she wrapped her scarf round her head and neck using her earpiece to recieve the call   'Emem where are you?'. The exact salutation she had expected    'Uhmm..just closing' she said waiting for an outburst     'What?!' He brayed.     'Is your car still at the mechanic? anyway where ever you are go back to where humans are and I will come get you.'     'Okay' she said too scared to protest. She had met Tayo at the Mangu orientation camp in Plateau State. He wa...

There was this guy who asked me out during my undergraduate days in the University he would have been any girl's dream man, but not mine. From my first to final year, and even after graduation he kept asking and got the same reply a huge 'NO' but brother was not having it, and saw me as a cold stone ice queen. He became persistent as the years rolled by and got same old reply.  A few years ago he was forward about what he wanted; something serious that would last a life time, and how he would like us to start a family and grow old together, well I told him it was not going to work out that I have never felt what he felt, and did not see myself sharing that emotion in the nearest future he started begging and was on the verge of crying, but I made him understand that even If I were to accept his proposal he would never be a happy man, and love was a strong emotion to beg for or compel, and if not careful someone might take advantage of his emotion and hurt him. I ma...

Memories shared together is what binds most couples, and this has contributed in creating internal desires. It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship, trying to get that special man's attention or winning your ex back after things 'went left' with you two. These six ways below will make him miss you like crazy. 1) Be Supportive It's a known fact that guys are supposed to be the strength in relationship, the makers, doers and all. It's important to show him how strong you are, how good a listener you are on issues related to his life and career show him, remind him that you know he'll figure things out. Support his dreams, his hustles, and he'll miss you like crazy. 2) Be mysterious Everyone of us enjoys a good mystery and your guy is of no difference. If your goal is to make him miss your presence, then you don't have to share your life history at once allow him to discover  new things about you every day. Trust me guys unconscious...

A friend who's been married for less than a year called me in the wee hours of the morning, and I instinctively knew something was wrong, at the sound of my voice she broke down, and told me all has not been well, that she was tired of pretending and she has been leaving in regret after tying the knot with her husband, and how she wished she had ignored all the pressure from her family to get married, because they felt she was getting old and her younger ones were all married at the time. And just last week I got more than three e-mails asking if it's right to rush into marriage because of one's age in my opinion it's not about what age it's about who you marry, its about finding the right person, although in our Society today age is a major factor in marriage, but most of us forget that marriage is a life long commitment, you ought to be ready for it before commiting. Your age, experience, exposure, number of years spent together cannot determine the suc...